Kung Fu Magazine

Banquet Etiquette

The do's and don'ts of Chinese Banquet Etiquette

Traditional Chinese culture is full of rigid formalities and courtesies, and even though modern China is nothing like the romantic China of centuries past, many traditional standards of etiquette and social propriety are still strictly observed. This holds especially true for diners and banquettes as sharing a meal is perhaps the most favored pastime of the Chinese.

The largest Chinese banquet commemorates the Lunar New Year, or Spring Festival (春节 - chun jie). For foreigners invited to share in the new year festivities, it is important to be aware of traditional social formalities so as to avoid "losing face" - both yours and the host's. Granted, most Chinese will not hold their foreign guests accountable for such strict standards of cultural conduct; nevertheless, the host can certainly appreciate the effort put forth as it shows a deep appreciation and respect for their traditions.

A special circumstance holds, however, for Chinese martial artists. Many traditional practitioners, especially in southern systems, observe etiquette very closely. It is believed that the social behavior of a student directly reflects the level and quality of instruction imparted by the master, and in this light, it is absolutely imperative for a serious student to take the time to familiarize themselves with standards of traditional etiquette so as to avoid inadvertently disrespecting one's master and lineage.

Before the Meal
Traditional Chinese greeting, or baoquan, from Master Liang Shouyu The first and foremost standard of courtesy to observe is properly addressing the master. A student should always greet the master appropriately. Titles may vary depending on the school and system, so if one is new to a school and unsure of how to address the master, a simple "Hello" with a gentle smile and friendly eye-contact should suffice.

To complement a greeting, a number of gestures can be made. Many Chinese martial artists formally greet each other with a "baoquan," or "hugged fist." This gesture is made by cupping a right-handed fist with the left palm. To make this gesture more polite, you may add a slight bow at the shoulders. "Kowtowing," or kneeling, is another traditional gesture for greeting the master, but these days it is very uncommon. If done over dramatically, especially in front of a large crowd, it can be considered quite rude. If one feels it to be sincerely appropriate, such a gesture should be made privately in an intimate setting.

On the Road
While on the road, there are specific formalities to observe as well. If on foot, always walk beside or behind the master. Leading is appropriate only when the master does not know the way. Once a destination is reached, open the door for the master or, if the door is locked, knock on behalf of the master and then step back. If traveling by charter, public transport, or chauffer, always open and hold the door for the master. Always insist on carrying the master's luggage, and be prepared to pay for the trip and tip the driver when appropriate.